Hey, Rank-Wearing Spouses – This One’s For You!
We all know that spouse – the one, who when her husband gets promoted, she acts like she did too. Queue the eye roll. For the love of all things that are holy, ladies, stop. wearing. your. husband’s. rank. Stop wearing rank at all!
Now don’t get me wrong – I know that not everyone is guilty of this, but the abundant handful of those who are, really make the rest of us look bad.
Ah, generalization – isn’t it lovely?
If you’re one of the ladies who possess boundaries and tact, thank you – this rant isn’t directed towards you in the slightest. It is, however, FOR you, because I know I’m not the only one who has been dying to say these words for years. If you’re one of the ladies who is confused about whether or not you’re entitled to throw your husband’s rank around like you inherently deserve the same level of honor simply because you married the guy, this IS for you.
We all know that spouse – the one, who when her husband gets promoted, she acts like she did too.
Not to burst your bubble, but unless you signed a contract committing your life to the United States military, went through a major life transformation in boot camp, showed up to active duty every day, and deployed overseas to fight for a country you love despite your own personal opinions about whether or not the fight you’re fighting is justified, YOU. DIDN’T. EARN. SHIT.
If you’re still unclear about whether you’re entitled to use your husband’s rank as your own, ask yourself the following:
- Do I hold an active duty ID?
- Have I signed a legally binding contract with the United States military?
- Have I ever stood duty?
- Have I ever NOT been able to tell my CO how you really feel?
- Am I subject to a rank hierarchy?
- Have I ever been forced, against my will, to PT at 0400 every morning for 4 year stints?
If you’ve answered, “no”, to any of the above questions, you ARE NOT entitled to act as though your husband’s rank is your own.
Stop wearing rank you didn’t earn.
Let me repeat that — If you’ve answered, “yes”, to any of the above questions, you ARE NOT entitled to act as though your husband’s rank is your own. So if you’ve ever started a sentence with, “I can [insert action you think you’re entitled to take based on your husband’s rank] because my husband is a [enter inflated sense of rank here]”, just do us all a favor and don’t. Ever. Being a military spouse isn’t easy – that’s a statement NOBODY can refute. But just because you’re along for the ride doesn’t mean you earned the title, the pin, or any of the respect your servicemember acquired by picking up rank.
You might be reaping the benefits, but you didn’t earn it. Stop wearing rank you didn’t earn.
Be honest with yourself. Who’s blouse did those chevrons get pinned to? (Not yours!)
Have 8 kids. Wear a micro dress to the ball (just don’t sneeze!) Buy that $80k fully loaded Suburban you can’t afford.
But DON’T wear your husband’s rank, ladies.
A Gunny’s Wife 😉